And so I see this girl who shouldn’t be anything less than 24years with this guy of say 25-26. She smiles and blushes as he speaks to her and clings unto him like her life depends on it.
Then I come around holding a book by Joshua Harris-Boy meets Girl(I’ll recommend that book to anyone who wants to get it right in relationship cum marriage). Back to the story, she squints as she tries to view the name of the book and then looks at my face to ensure it was approachable then smiles at me which of course I returned with a smile. Then she says timidly, “pls can I see your book?” Sure, I replied handing it to her.
Now if you know this book you can relate it to strong spiritual principles of relationship and takes great discipline and the fear of God to adhere to.
Leaning on a nearby car, this young man who had been engaging the lady started a conversation with me and before we could finish three lines, I had rated him as-arrogant, proud and full of himself and in my most courteous manner, I ended the discussion seeing we both didn’t share same values.
Now back to our beautiful lady friend, I can see her getting engrossed in the book and I’m happy within me! But something happened, suddenly one of the friends of her sugar plum comes to her and says, ‘what book is that?’and she says non chalantly, ‘just one of those motivational books’ and my head pops like seriously?and then she hands it over to me.
Fast forward to 2weeks, someone works up to me and says, “Hello Love” and I’m like “Hello” as I ransack my brain trying to figure out where I met this guy. Then it clicks! That’s the boy meets girl lady’s friend! Hehe. And so we exchange pleasantries and I’m like, ‘how’s your girl friend’ and he says almost immediately, my friend. *smiles* Nice one bruv…….
So let’s end this story, I figured that men always want to be around women who are confident.
Dear girl friend, being clingy and laughing at the slightest bit of whatever he says doesn’t make him want to be with you or keep you but rather it depicts one thing, low self esteem.
A woman who knows whom she really is does not need to throw herself at any man to gain his attention.
Like the beautiful lady in the story, I know and see a lot of ladies who their esteem has been battered probably because of financial dependence on a guy or emotional support which most times involves sex.
Truth be told, you will never be valued this way but I’ve got good news for you! There’s a way out and VET has come to show you that way! In the upcoming series, we will be sharing some life changing stories which will enable you take that bold step you’ve been wanting to.
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